Comments on: How to Be Grateful When You Don’t Feel Like It http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/ The gentle art of sanity amidst civilization Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:44:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Yati Bailey http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-19848 Yati Bailey Sat, 08 Oct 2011 16:33:11 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-19848 Thank you, thank you so much for the article. i have been soul searching to the core of my restlessnes and realised that perspective and mere gratefulness to everything that is already important around me is all i need to be happy and smile each day, and stop complaining and feeling that i am not lucky in my life. but infact i am sooo lucky and secured with my loving husband and beautiful children.....and my network of friends who are very practical loving people..... i am blessed...thank you again. Thank you, thank you so much for the article. i have been soul searching to the core of my restlessnes and realised that perspective and mere gratefulness to everything that is already important around me is all i need to be happy and smile each day, and stop complaining and feeling that i am not lucky in my life. but infact i am sooo lucky and secured with my loving husband and beautiful children…..and my network of friends who are very practical loving people….. i am blessed…thank you again.

]]> By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-18833 David Fri, 26 Aug 2011 01:39:29 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-18833 Thanks Greg. It really is effective, this negative visualization. The Buddhists make a point of practicing a contemplation of death, and many of them say that nothing they've ever done has had such a great effect on making life richer and more rewarding. Thanks Greg. It really is effective, this negative visualization. The Buddhists make a point of practicing a contemplation of death, and many of them say that nothing they’ve ever done has had such a great effect on making life richer and more rewarding.

]]> By: Greg http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-18818 Greg Thu, 25 Aug 2011 18:13:11 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-18818 This was much needed article for me. We often create extra stress for ourselves in our heads. This then leads to a poor mood and even physical exhaustion. So I can see why finding ways to become grateful for your current condition can be extremely beneficial. I have heard and tried negative visualization in the past and it seemed to help me. I really enjoyed the way you explained your technique, and I will be trying this out immediately. Really enjoy your blog! This was much needed article for me. We often create extra stress for ourselves in our heads. This then leads to a poor mood and even physical exhaustion. So I can see why finding ways to become grateful for your current condition can be extremely beneficial. I have heard and tried negative visualization in the past and it seemed to help me. I really enjoyed the way you explained your technique, and I will be trying this out immediately. Really enjoy your blog!

]]> By: Cassie http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-8994 Cassie Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:25:09 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-8994 Alex, your self-mutilation analogy doesn't work, unfortunately, because of the nature of thought. it would be more accurate if David had suggested, "purposefully back up your toilet up to avoid your own annoyance at the fact that your ordered ten banana bunches over the internets but only got 5!" Instead, what he said was to THINK about the results of such a situation, rather than to bring them about yourself. =] also, isn't the question "what is lacking?" merely an invitation to gripe? that's what it sounds like to me. Also, "intellectually superior" man.... I don't have anything to say to you, and no one else should, either. (Was that statement a contradiction? Dunno, but it would have sounded awfully weird if I'd said, 'I have only one thing to say to you, and that's this.') Alex,

your self-mutilation analogy doesn’t work, unfortunately, because of the nature of thought. it would be more accurate if David had suggested, “purposefully back up your toilet up to avoid your own annoyance at the fact that your ordered ten banana bunches over the internets but only got 5!” Instead, what he said was to THINK about the results of such a situation, rather than to bring them about yourself. =]

also, isn’t the question “what is lacking?” merely an invitation to gripe? that’s what it sounds like to me.

Also, “intellectually superior” man…. I don’t have anything to say to you, and no one else should, either. (Was that statement a contradiction? Dunno, but it would have sounded awfully weird if I’d said, ‘I have only one thing to say to you, and that’s this.’)

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]]> By: Alex http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-3268 Alex Tue, 19 May 2009 15:06:33 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-3268 really gripping description of sleepness nights as a child. was warped in. so unfortunately true about the conditions for gratitude. kind of like people who become nice when they mess up or who pray when things get bad. the shifting sands of calibration. the description of Dave Matthews' situation was super gripping. one of those moments of pensive silent reflection. really hard-hitting. not too sure if i aggree with making them worse in your head as a habit solution. seemsl like cutting yourself with a knife when you graze your foot to make the graze hurt less. it will, but not necessarily the most effective solution. for me, the best way to becoem grateful is to release (ala sedona method) and feel the infinite awesomeness of life, get present in the eckhart tolle sense and ask myself, "at this moment, what is lacking?" respect all round though. gripping stuff. talk to you soon alex <abbr><em>Alex’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.unleashreality.com/how-to-focus" rel="nofollow">How to Focus: Get Things Done and Be Free</a></abbr></em> really gripping description of sleepness nights as a child. was warped in.

so unfortunately true about the conditions for gratitude. kind of like people who become nice when they mess up or who pray when things get bad.

the shifting sands of calibration.

the description of Dave Matthews’ situation was super gripping. one of those moments of pensive silent reflection. really hard-hitting.

not too sure if i aggree with making them worse in your head as a habit solution. seemsl like cutting yourself with a knife when you graze your foot to make the graze hurt less. it will, but not necessarily the most effective solution. for me, the best way to becoem grateful is to release (ala sedona method) and feel the infinite awesomeness of life, get present in the eckhart tolle sense and ask myself, “at this moment, what is lacking?”

respect all round though. gripping stuff.
talk to you soon
alex

Alex’s last blog post..How to Focus: Get Things Done and Be Free

]]> By: Barb http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-3258 Barb Tue, 19 May 2009 12:08:40 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-3258 Such a good post! Thank you! Such a good post! Thank you!

]]> By: Sherri (Serene Journey) http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-3245 Sherri (Serene Journey) Tue, 19 May 2009 03:03:20 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-3245 Hi David, I like this post a lot. What some of us take for granted here are luxuries elsewhere. Always keeping in mind that "someone else" has it worse is a good way to be grateful for what you have. We do this whenever faced with something particularly upsetting or difficult to get over and it somehow helps us cope a bit easier and get through it. As you know I started a gratitude journal a couple of months ago and it's really been one of the best things I've done. It's a constant reminder of the little things in life to be grateful for and it gives me a chance to reflect at the end of each day. It's awesome! <abbr><em>Sherri (Serene Journey)’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SereneJourney/~3/wCOPnYB8lc4/" rel="nofollow">Kick-Off To Summer BBQ</a></abbr></em> Hi David,
I like this post a lot. What some of us take for granted here are luxuries elsewhere. Always keeping in mind that “someone else” has it worse is a good way to be grateful for what you have. We do this whenever faced with something particularly upsetting or difficult to get over and it somehow helps us cope a bit easier and get through it.

As you know I started a gratitude journal a couple of months ago and it’s really been one of the best things I’ve done. It’s a constant reminder of the little things in life to be grateful for and it gives me a chance to reflect at the end of each day. It’s awesome!

Sherri (Serene Journey)’s last blog post..Kick-Off To Summer BBQ

]]> By: Evelyn Lim http://www.raptitude.com/2009/05/how-to-be-grateful-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-3244 Evelyn Lim Tue, 19 May 2009 02:08:35 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=1178#comment-3244 Yes, a change in perspective can impact how we relate to the world. We usually perceive things to be far worse than what the reality of the situation really is. We experience a sense of insecurity. Our ego comes in. We magnify our dramas. We forget that there are a lot of people in far worse situations than where we are. <abbr><em>Evelyn Lim’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/attractionmindmap/~3/d_5TD7p2CTU/" rel="nofollow">Express Your Soul Gifts</a></abbr></em> Yes, a change in perspective can impact how we relate to the world. We usually perceive things to be far worse than what the reality of the situation really is. We experience a sense of insecurity. Our ego comes in. We magnify our dramas. We forget that there are a lot of people in far worse situations than where we are.

Evelyn Lim’s last blog post..Express Your Soul Gifts

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