The feeling of uncertainty being uncomfortable, even if I’m in a bad place (emotionally, physically, etc.), at least it was a place!

I totally related to uncontested things even though I had a better shot than anyone and hating uncertainty. Sort of like either demanding to be on top of the trash heap or hiding underneath it. Or just ordering the first thing I see on the menu so people behind me won’t get upset waiting… I’ve gotten over a lot of that though the last few years.

As I’ve grown spiritually over these last few years, I continue to learn from experience, that I do NOT usually know what is best for me. In my wildest dreams, I could not have written my life store better than it has turned out once I just got out of the way.

One huge step was learning to distinguish between my wants and me needs (which is a continual struggle). Learning that my needs will always be met and my wants (desires) will never be completely satisfied.

Happiness is often equal to the amount of gratitude I have, at any given time, that my needs are being met; while sadness being equal to the degree in which I have confused my wants with my needs.
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Nice post. I myself am going through a similar situation right now because I may have to move to my parents house for a few mos. While it is unsettling to think that i’m 30 and going to go live with my parents I think your point that it has to change by its very nature is a good reminder that situations get better. I’ve been very careful to ask myself one question. What’s best that could happen?
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Daniel —

Look to the Uncertainty Principle in physics: you can’t know where you’re going if you know where you are OR you can’t know where you are if you know where you’re going

That’s a great point. The universe has uncertainty woven into its very fabric, so how could we achieve it on the macro level. Heisenburg had me all figured out decades ago

I love how this post turned out. The night I began writing it (tuesday), I’d had a fairly frustrating day, and didn’t really feel like writing, but I sure had a lot to say on the topic of uncertainty.

But when I finished the article yesterday, I was feeling relaxed and accepting, even though I was no further along in my search. So the beginning of the post has a really frustrated tone and by the time it gets to the end my tune has totally changed. Same thing happened with my How to Keep Bad Moods From Taking You Over article.

Just to clear up any confusion, I’ve got a good handle on my uncertain situation and the feelings that pop up about it, I was just starting to crack a bit on tuesday.

I don’t have a place to live yet, but I will soon and I’m at peace with the situation.

Back in 2004 when I returned from living in India for six months, I found myself in a situation that I never imagined and I no other choice but to survive. Due to that experience, I learned how to live with uncertainty. In the beginning, it was extremely tough but with time, it became very easy because I learned to see that life will always be uncertain. How do any of us know what the day will bring? We have no clue. We think we will leave home at a certain hour and be back home at a certain hour but that can change without any notice.

The lack of a home is usually when such a lesson is usually learned because it is so stark and it is immediate. However, once you survive that phase (which you will), it is the most amazing feeling. Home is not one location, it is wherever you are in the world. It is a state of mind.

By the way, one of the criticisms I get from my relatives is that my life seems so uncertain and the fact that the uncertainty does not bother me, bothers them more. So it is interesting to see how scared people become when they see someone living with uncertainty. Maybe this is happening to you so that you finally conquer this issue since you wrote about your struggles in the past regarding scholarships and so on.

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Finding too much comfort known and safe route will lead to fear and failure eventually. The only constant in life is change!

Embrace the adventure and uncertainty of your life’s adventure!

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