http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/ The gentle art of sanity amidst civilization Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:02:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-19646 ROD 092111 | next level performance Wed, 21 Sep 2011 04:43:22 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-19646 [...] person. Imagine getting a flat tire, falling ill at a bad time, or knocking something over and breaking it — and suffering nothing from it. There is nothing to fear if you agree with yourself to deal [...] [...] person. Imagine getting a flat tire, falling ill at a bad time, or knocking something over and breaking it — and suffering nothing from it. There is nothing to fear if you agree with yourself to deal [...]

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-8064 made me laugh « My Coloring Book Sat, 27 Feb 2010 00:44:21 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-8064 [...] “Recently I knocked from my fridgetop an adorable little bottle of Spanish balsamic vinegar my mom brought from Barcelona. I was feeling especially grounded that day and somehow, before it even struck the floor, I was over it.” – raptitude [...] [...] “Recently I knocked from my fridgetop an adorable little bottle of Spanish balsamic vinegar my mom brought from Barcelona. I was feeling especially grounded that day and somehow, before it even struck the floor, I was over it.” – raptitude [...]

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-6454 Langston Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:19:40 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-6454 I live similarly in terms of my understanding of unfortunate occurrences. Sometimes I think simply to laugh and learn when I know I could have prevented something (such as an object falling) if I didn't spend so many milliseconds watching it fall. What people should realize is that they should not attempt "not to feel" or to block their disappointment. Instead we must allow the emotion to flow through and out of us. Otherwise, it'll just look good for the moment, but you'll end up crying someday. I live similarly in terms of my understanding of unfortunate occurrences. Sometimes I think simply to laugh and learn when I know I could have prevented something (such as an object falling) if I didn’t spend so many milliseconds watching it fall. What people should realize is that they should not attempt “not to feel” or to block their disappointment. Instead we must allow the emotion to flow through and out of us. Otherwise, it’ll just look good for the moment, but you’ll end up crying someday.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5867 David Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:30:57 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5867 I agree, smaller things do seem to be more insidious sometimes. Maybe it's because there are so many of them that once in a while, one of them hits us right when we're most vulnerable. I agree, smaller things do seem to be more insidious sometimes. Maybe it’s because there are so many of them that once in a while, one of them hits us right when we’re most vulnerable.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5858 Roberta Mon, 05 Oct 2009 20:40:35 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5858 this helped me a lot today. yesterday I was "crying over spilled milk" and the rest of my day was not so good. it was something so minor in the grand scheme of things. I have noticed that sometimes the smaller things are harder to let go of and sometimes the harder things are easier to let go off. The quote you used "seeing everything as already broken" is something I need to remember. .-= Roberta´s last blog ..<a href="http://awanderingnymph.blogspot.com/2009/10/new-friend.html" rel="nofollow">new friend</a> =-. this helped me a lot today. yesterday I was “crying over spilled milk” and the rest of my day was not so good. it was something so minor in the grand scheme of things. I have noticed that sometimes the smaller things are harder to let go of and sometimes the harder things are easier to let go off. The quote you used “seeing everything as already broken” is something I need to remember.
.-= Roberta´s last blog ..new friend =-.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5816 David Sun, 04 Oct 2009 13:58:57 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5816 Thanks Ian. I'm off to go break stuff in the kitchen. Thanks Ian. I’m off to go break stuff in the kitchen.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5815 David Sun, 04 Oct 2009 13:57:37 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5815 Good point. Everything passes, even the attachment. Good point. Everything passes, even the attachment.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5814 David Sun, 04 Oct 2009 13:56:13 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5814 That's right, and there is a lot more to be discussed about that idea. It's all the same thing, just the forms change. I'm going to write about other applications of that particular insight, because it is so powerful. That’s right, and there is a lot more to be discussed about that idea. It’s all the same thing, just the forms change. I’m going to write about other applications of that particular insight, because it is so powerful.

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5813 David Sun, 04 Oct 2009 13:54:13 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5813 Thanks Dayne! Thanks Dayne!

]]> http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/how-to-not-cry-over-spilled-milk/#comment-5812 David Sun, 04 Oct 2009 13:53:01 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2163#comment-5812 Hi Walter. Yes, that's really what it's about: raising the level of consciousness from reactivity to unattached observation. Hi Walter. Yes, that’s really what it’s about: raising the level of consciousness from reactivity to unattached observation.

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