Comments on: The Easiest Way to Suffer http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/ The gentle art of sanity amidst civilization Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:02:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-14536 David Fri, 18 Mar 2011 01:48:43 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-14536 Forgive yourself anyway. Chastising yourself is not the best way to hold yourself accountable. If you want accountability, get it from someone else. Make someone a bet or a promise, or announce your intentions publicly. Forgive yourself anyway. Chastising yourself is not the best way to hold yourself accountable. If you want accountability, get it from someone else. Make someone a bet or a promise, or announce your intentions publicly.
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]]> By: Trevor M http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-14471 Trevor M Mon, 14 Mar 2011 22:12:43 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-14471 I enjoyed this piece of writing because it came to me in a moment when i am frozen in a state of self doubt and artistic and instinctual paralysis. With everything to gain all i can focus on is what i stand to lose and the seemingly overwhelming tasks at hand. The notion that i have created these unenforceable rules for myself and that they could be a factor in what has held me back recently is a small revelation. Is there a way to forgive myself for doing this without crossing into the zone of not holding myself accountable for not reaching certain goals? Because that seems dangerous to me. I enjoyed this piece of writing because it came to me in a moment when i am frozen in a state of self doubt and artistic and instinctual paralysis. With everything to gain all i can focus on is what i stand to lose and the seemingly overwhelming tasks at hand. The notion that i have created these unenforceable rules for myself and that they could be a factor in what has held me back recently is a small revelation. Is there a way to forgive myself for doing this without crossing into the zone of not holding myself accountable for not reaching certain goals? Because that seems dangerous to me.

]]> By: Tobi http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-13939 Tobi Mon, 21 Feb 2011 22:35:04 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-13939 Another brilliant post. I sent this to my friend... I think it's just what she needs to hear. Thank you for writing this blog! Another brilliant post. I sent this to my friend… I think it’s just what she needs to hear. Thank you for writing this blog!

]]> By: Joy http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6284 Joy Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:04:07 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6284 "Unenforceable rules"-wow, now that you've brought it to my attention I believe I may be queen of creating them. Even though I believe I remain open, when I make these "rules" I am actually trying to regain control and influence a situation. Hmm...must be very mindful of this in the future. Thank you! “Unenforceable rules”-wow, now that you’ve brought it to my attention I believe I may be queen of creating them. Even though I believe I remain open, when I make these “rules” I am actually trying to regain control and influence a situation. Hmm…must be very mindful of this in the future. Thank you!

]]> By: Char (PSI Tutor:Mentor) http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6280 Char (PSI Tutor:Mentor) Sat, 31 Oct 2009 07:26:39 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6280 hmmm~ though how does one remove the dross and refine the spirit without the crucible...? methinks the key is "worry"; I can be hurting, scared and/or grieving and still trust...I think...I'm going to think/soak up more on this one... hmmm~ though how does one remove the dross and refine the spirit without the crucible…?

methinks the key is “worry”; I can be hurting, scared and/or grieving and still trust…I think…I’m going to think/soak up more on this one…

]]> By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6277 David Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:08:35 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6277 Great way of looking at it Brenda. Stay here, and "here" is all one needs to deal with. I'll keep that sentiment with me today. Great way of looking at it Brenda. Stay here, and “here” is all one needs to deal with. I’ll keep that sentiment with me today.

]]> By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6276 David Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:06:54 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6276 Thanks Daphne. I try to carry with me the intention to take little hits in stride, before they happen and I find myself in the middle of a nasty emotional reaction. I would like to skip that part and get right to the "Okay, here I am, so what now?" Thanks Daphne. I try to carry with me the intention to take little hits in stride, before they happen and I find myself in the middle of a nasty emotional reaction. I would like to skip that part and get right to the “Okay, here I am, so what now?”

]]> By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6275 David Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:04:33 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6275 Oh for sure. I remember many instances as a kid when I bought something I really wanted, and I had it in my hands, and I was so uptight about getting home without losing it or breaking it. Oh for sure. I remember many instances as a kid when I bought something I really wanted, and I had it in my hands, and I was so uptight about getting home without losing it or breaking it.

]]> By: David http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6274 David Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:02:02 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6274 That's a great point Char. I guess the litmus test is whether there is suffering or not. It is definitely possible to intend, and picture a particular outcome, without worrying that it won't happen. That's something I'd like to get good at. That’s a great point Char. I guess the litmus test is whether there is suffering or not. It is definitely possible to intend, and picture a particular outcome, without worrying that it won’t happen. That’s something I’d like to get good at.

]]> By: Brenda http://www.raptitude.com/2009/10/the-easiest-way-to-suffer/#comment-6271 Brenda Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:16:54 +0000 http://www.raptitude.com/?p=2248#comment-6271 I'm reminded of the absent-minded professor who is always losing or forgetting something. I think the professor has a presence problem. If you can stay focused on the moment, in that moment you have everything you need. You know I don't subscribe to blogs, not even this one, but I had a weak moment earlier and subscribed to The Kiwi Report. I don't know what's come over me. .-= Brenda´s last blog ..<a href="http://betaphilings.com/?p=1084" rel="nofollow">Laughter is a Funny Thing</a> =-. I’m reminded of the absent-minded professor who is always losing or forgetting something. I think the professor has a presence problem. If you can stay focused on the moment, in that moment you have everything you need.

You know I don’t subscribe to blogs, not even this one, but I had a weak moment earlier and subscribed to The Kiwi Report. I don’t know what’s come over me.
.-= Brenda´s last blog ..Laughter is a Funny Thing =-.

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