Comments on: What Poker Pros Can Teach You About Your Deepest Issues

By: David

David — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 05:38:23 +0000

Hi Vinny. The kind of tell I’m talking about it something that happens right in the moment, when some part of you recognizes that there is a deception going on, and reacts.

By: Vincent Nguyen

Vincent Nguyen — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 07:29:02 +0000

Very interesting correlation between poker tells and life tells David.

A thought came to me about our red flag tells
I was wondering what about “delayed tells”? and the effects they have in our lives
What I mean by “delayed tells” is getting our red flags after an event has happened
Things we know we should not be doing but we do it anyways such as:

-Still going shopping even though we know we need to use credit and have more debt afterwards
-We are coughing often but still keep on smoking
-We know we get out of control but still keep on drinking

Does it make sense?
I am not even sure myself.
.-= Vincent Nguyen´s last blog ..D.A.R.E. to Achieve Greatness =-.

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:45:44 +0000

Thanks Sarah. I had The Gambler in my head the whole time I was writing this, I swear. I can’t get rid of it.

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:44:46 +0000

Yes, and the possibilities are endless. Chess is another one that’s often compared to life. Snakes and ladders often illustrates life pretty well too. :)

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:43:48 +0000

Hi Patty, thanks for your insight. This really struck me:

So often when we ask a person how they are that day, we don’t really want to know. In turn, we rarely ask it of ourselves

I don’t know if I’ve ever asked myself how I’m doing. Once in a while a friend asks me that when I’m feeling a bit off, because they notice I’m off even when I don’t. You gave me something to think about.

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:39:13 +0000

That's an excellent thought Earl. I will experiment with using this for compassionate purposes. Maybe combine it with this technique. That sort of meditation is essentially what I'm talking about. Any negative mental sensation is a perfect time to look inward at what exactly is taking place, what is being reacted to. I used to find sitting meditation frustrating because I couldn't get all the little mental objections out of the way (it's too hot in here, my butt hurts, I can't sit still) before I could begin to meditate. Then I learned that those are perfect opportunities for watching what makes me react. Watching those goings-on is valuable self-examination. Learning your tells is really the same.

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:33:30 +0000

Well in online poker there is a whole different set of tells to look at: the playing speed, the sums they bet, chat, etc.

I think it makes sense to look at your weaknesses, provided you don’t define yourself by them. Sometimes we let a particular fear cordon off large areas of possibility because we never want to look at it and never want to do anything about it. So we gravitate towards our strengths which is often just what is comfortable and easy for us. Focus on strengths, but don’t ignore weaknesses, how’s that for a combination? :)

By: David

David — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:26:43 +0000

Hi Henri. Yes, when it comes to poker there’s a whole additional level of fake tells. But a fake tell is a signal too. The rule of thumb is Weak means strong, strong means weak.

By: Sarah Joy Albrecht

Sarah Joy Albrecht — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 23:52:52 +0000

There is so much that can be learned from poker about life. I loved the idea for this post and how you fleshed it out.

My parents used to be Kenny Rogers fans. This post had me singing “The Gambler” :)

Happy New Year!
.-= Sarah Joy Albrecht´s last blog ..Waking Up Early : A Small Habit Change With Big Results =-.

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 23:16:19 +0000

It is interesting always to think about the strategies of games, and connect the observations to the relevance of the human behavior. .-= Erin´s last blog ..The Spirit Within Us =-.