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How to Deal With People Who Frustrate You

by David on July 19, 2010

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Deep down I knew better, but I couldn’t stop myself. An opinionated Twitter acquaintance of mine had tweeted a snarky comment that dismissed all forms of self-improvement as new age feel-good fluff. It was such a sweeping, cynical remark that I felt I had to set him straight. So I hammered out a sharp rebuttal, [...]

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red door

When you sit back and reminisce about your life, it’s almost a given that the most enjoyable and memorable moments are the ones in which you were completely present. Do you look back with fondness all the times you spent thinking about work while you drove home, or pondered dinner while you wheeled down the [...]

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An expert poker player will shred a novice every time, even though both players have the same chance of drawing strong cards. Knowing the odds has something to do with it, but not as much as you might think. In Texas Hold’em, today’s most popular form of poker, each player only gets two cards so [...]

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Chop Wood, Carry Water

by David on December 21, 2009

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When the mind is not crowded By imaginary things, It is the best season of your life. -Kabir I just chopped twelve hundred needless words from this article, which is fitting, because the point of all that blathering was to warn against getting lost in abstractions. I think too much. Virtually all of us do, [...]

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alone in a crowd

I’ve received a fair bit of email asking me to write about how to be more comfortable in your own skin, particularly in unfamiliar places. Many report some level of anxiety at the thought of venturing into crowded venues, exploring new neighborhoods, or traveling alone. I won’t pretend I’ve conquered self-consciousness in all its forms, [...]

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The Easiest Way to Suffer

by David on October 29, 2009

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Since I left on my trip, I’ve had quite a few deadlines to hit. Bus at 07:50. Ferry at 15:45. Plane at 14:30. Pick up the key after 5:00 and before 6:00. Meet so-and-so here at 7:30. I’m also constantly checking to see if I still have my crucial items: passport, laptop, wallet and tickets. [...]

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handwriting

When I was taking French classes a few months ago, we were each asked to write a composition in French and pass it to another classmate to read. It struck me then that I very seldom write more than a Post-It note’s worth these days. By the end of a paragraph, my hand is cramped [...]

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How to Not Cry Over Spilled Milk

by David on October 1, 2009

Spilled milk

Recently I knocked from my fridgetop an adorable little bottle of Spanish balsamic vinegar my mom brought from Barcelona. I was feeling especially grounded that day and somehow, before it even struck the floor, I was over it. On a different day I might have sworn and fretted about it, cursed myself as I picked [...]

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The List

by David on September 10, 2009

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As promised, here is what I plan to do before I die. This list is now a permanent addition to Raptitude.com, and the most up-to-date version can be found by clicking “The List” tab on the top of any page. If you want to make your own list, here is the comprehensive guide to making [...]

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Seek Professional Help

by David on August 20, 2009

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Asking for help has always been so hard for me. I always hated it when I couldn’t do something for myself. I felt like a failure. I was so used to being asked for help, I sort of felt like I’d lose my identity as “the knower” if I put myself on the other side [...]

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