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How to Stop Eating Candy for Breakfast

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There’s a particular scene in an early episode of the Simpsons that I found especially relatable, as a ten-year-old whose main interest was candy. Bart and Lisa wake up the morning after Halloween, so miserable from eating sweets that they can’t even look at their candy pile. When Marge suggests giving the rest of it to needy children, they protest, flop onto the candy pile to protect it, and begin miserably eating more.

I had noticed by then that the deliciousness of candy was highly variable. The first Twizzler or mouthful of Nerds tasted the best. The delight fell off steadily after that, although I would almost always finish whatever I’d bought with my allowance.

At that age, my candy consumption was usually only limited by my budget. However, I knew from Halloween’s annual windfalls that you could eat enough candy to reach a state where the magic is basically gone, and all that remains is a harsh sugariness. It’s clear the party’s over, yet some part of you still wants to continue gobbling toffees and Tootsie Rolls.

This is because, even though pleasure is basically gone by then, eating another candy still gives a faint hint of the initial deliciousness. It’s like you’ve already squeezed all the juice out of an orange or a lemon, but you can always give the empty rind another hard squeeze, and wring out one more drop.

Drug of choice, 1989

I was thinking of this analogy as I was trying to break away from my phone the other day. I had done my usual rounds (email, social media, sports scores), exhausting the novelty of each app, but I still found myself hunting for a bit more stimulation before putting it away. I checked the weather again, then email again, and ended up joylessly scrolling Reddit for so long that I could see the algorithm straining to find new posts from my usual topics. Eventually I did break away, after wasting so much time I don’t even want to say.

I’m sure people vary in how susceptible they are to doomscrolling or chain-snacking (I am very susceptible). But if you can relate to the above scenario at all, you might have noticed that after taking one of these pleasures to its point of exhaustion, you feel personally drained. Motivation and initiative have cratered, and it’s hard to get yourself to jump into something productive. The mind is hunting for something easy and gratifying – like picking up the phone again.

Drug of choice, 2025

My understanding is that this drained state is what it feels like to have depleted your supply of available dopamine, a neurotransmitter central to the brain’s reward system. Engaging in novel and instantly gratifying activities, like snack-gobbling and phone-scrolling, causes dopamine release, and, if you keep at it, depletion.*

Like a laboratory rat who hit the food-pellet button too many times, soon there’s no reward to be had, and you end up demotivated, unfocused, and moody, until your reward system can recover.

Juicing the Lemon

The lemon-squeezing analogy above is from psychiatrist Alok Kanojia, who goes by “Dr. K” to his audience of technology-addled Zoomers and Millennials. He says that for people who struggle with motivation, dopamine is something that can be managed intentionally, by structuring your day differently.

As someone prone to motivation collapse (and who apparently has compromised dopamine circuitry), my ears perked up at this possibility.

Me, looking up something important on Reddit

Essentially, the lemon metaphor goes like this. (Dr. K stresses this is a loose analogy, and I stress that I’m just sharing my interpretation of it):

Assume you begin the day with a full, unsqueezed lemon, having allowed the dopamine system to recover during sleep.

When the lemon is full, any squeeze of the lemon is going to cause a large release of dopamine. Highly dopaminergic activities (such as checking all your favorite apps first thing) squeeze the lemon particularly hard, creating a massive dopamine release, which reinforces the behavior that triggered it, and significantly depletes dopamine reserves.*

The more dopaminergic the activity (i.e. the more forcefully that activity “squeezes the lemon”) the less dopamine you need to have in reserve in order to engage with it. That’s why it’s always easy to pick up your phone or eat a snack, even as you become more depleted by the end of the day, while less dopaminergic activities (such as work, exercise or problem-solving) usually need to be done earlier, while you can still get yourself to do them. More effortful activities, whose rewards are further away in time, require a fuller lemon to generate sufficient motivation.

6:58 am

When dopamine gets bottomed out from too much squeezing, it can feel impossible to do anything but continue to madly squeeze the lemon, because the reserves don’t exist to motivate anything harder. This is how a person can feel “locked in” to doomscrolling, Oreo-munching, gaming, or channel-surfing, unable to break away. People with ADHD are even more prone to this locked-in state, because the dopamine system is already compromised.

Ideally, you want to keep your dopamine reserves as high as possible for as long as possible each day. You particularly want to avoid making any massive lemon-squeezes early in the day, which is exactly what you’re doing if you go straight for the smartphone upon waking.

7:25 am

What would be optimal, according to Kanojia, is to get up and go straight into something effortful and productive. This will conserve dopamine reserves, and keep motivation available for effortful activity for more of the day.

Starting with effortful activity is always going to be harder than picking up the phone and scrolling in bed, but it will make the day easier on the whole, and avoid the motivation collapse that leads to wringing the lemon dry with snacks, entertainment, or other forms of self-stimulation.

An Experiment

All this has got me thinking. For those of us who keep our phones on the nightstand and look at them first thing: is this just a minor compromise, something we’d be slightly better off avoiding, or are we basically eating candy for breakfast every day? Are large swaths of the population hobbling themselves right from Moment One each day?

Candy dish on the nightstand

I don’t know, but I’m pretty sure it’s more than a minor mistake in my case. I didn’t always fall into these motivation sinkholes – that began in the last few years. My guess is that my device habits worsened at some point (during lockdown?), which led to an even worse-than-usual dopamine situation, which led to more phone use, even worse habits, and so on.

For my 38th experiment, I’m going to test out the above dopamine management idea, and see if I perceive a subjective difference to motivation and focus.

Again, I don’t have any real understanding of how neurotransmitters work, and I don’t know how accurate my metaphors are here. I’m just going test out Dr K’s recommendations above, along with a few other dopamine-management practices, for a month, and see how it affects my days.

Motivation after 14 minutes of Instagram Reels

Primarily that means not using my phone at all for the first few hours of the day. Not before I meditate and do some work at my desk. After that, using it consciously and sparingly, avoiding apps I tend to get caught up in, along with any other behaviors that seem to squeeze the lemon early and often.

Most other recommendations fit a theme of avoiding “cheap dopamine” as much as possible. Default to effortful things, confronting the necessary discomfort, especially early in the day. Find a way to respond to unpleasant emotions that doesn’t involve easy gratification (i.e. go for a walk instead of snacking or unlocking your phone).

The other practice I intend to try is cold exposure. I’m going to spend a few minutes, a few mornings a week, taking a cold shower or bath. This supposedly causes slow, lasting increases in dopamine, and has other health benefits. Also, I’m just curious how unpleasant it will be.

Can’t wait

This is all just an informal experiment to see what happens. There are a lot of “dopamine detox” and “dopamine fasting” ideas out there right now. Research is scant and there’s a lot of crackpottery around the subject, but I do think there’s something to be discovered by experimenting with my own routines. The way I currently do things is undoubtedly not great, so I don’t think it will be hard to find a much better way through the day.

Follow the experiment, or join me, on my public experiment log.

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*My understanding is that the word “depletion” here is an analogy. Our bodies don’t run out of dopamine; our dopamine receptors become desensitized. The “juice” is not dopamine exactly, but dopamine sensitivity.

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Jenny April 25, 2025 at 8:59 am

A couple years ago I quit smoking. I did it with a mindfulness program and it was so eye opening to understand how many “bad /uncomfortable feelings” I was avoiding with smoking. This same scenario goes on all the time with distractions and snacks. Last month I quit FB which was my next biggest addiction. It’s been very difficult. But taking the time to notice that when I want to look at FB, is the same way I wanted to smoke a cigarette, and instead noticing what emotion I’m trying to avoid… is life changing. I’m excited to hear what your experiences are. This is such a very important topic for everyone right now.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:37 am

Congrats on quitting successfully. I am definitely doing something like that with my phone. It’s even easier to turn to than smoking because it’s always right there and you don’t need to find a designated area.

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Kar April 25, 2025 at 9:00 am

David, I love this article. But I started it thinking you were going to say ‘how to stop’ eating candy, scrolling etc. It seems the answer is ‘just stop’. While that may be a complete answer, it does seem like a difficult thing to do! Maybe your years of mindfulness and meditation have set up a structure that makes it doable? Or maybe it isn’t difficult to do for a month? At any rate I look forward to seeing how it goes for you. Thanks!

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:39 am

Mindfulness is really helpful, because it makes it easier to be with cravings and unpleasant emotions. I’ve really been struggling with my practice over this same period, and I think it is related.

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Jamie April 25, 2025 at 9:04 am

Hi!

I’ve been a reader for a long time. I’m not sure that I’ve ever commented before, but this hits on a thread I’ve been exploring over the past few years, with greater intention over the past four months.

Have you read: Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy by James Wilson Williams? He won the Nine Dots Prize and his chosen focus area was the dopamine/addiction to digital media. (as well as the negative implications it has had for relationships, motivation, politics, family.) It’s a pretty fast and easy read! I think you would appreciate the mindfulness aspect of it as well as the cravings/behavior components.

Other good compendium reads to that, if you’ve not already read:
In The Shallows, Deep Work, and Slow Productivity.

Very along the lines of the mindfulness in which you write, and I bet a lot of crossover readers as well (like me.)

Thanks again for Raptitude! It’s a blessing.

I think you would really enjoy it!

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:40 am

I have not, but I’ll get it next. Currently I’m reading “The Molecule of More”, which is about dopamine and its role in society.

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MK April 27, 2025 at 2:46 pm

Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke is a great read on this subject. After reading it, I was unnerved enough to modify my smartphone into a dumb phone, and have been (mostly) sticking to this for the past year. It’s been a great change, but I’m regularly reminded that even when I have the discipline to stick the the self-imposed smartphone limits, my brain still hunts for other quick dopamine fixes (ie I occasionally find myself scrolling on my work’s very dry news and info page— just to scroll. It’s crazy).

Have you ever tried turning your phone to black and white? One of the best hacks in my opinion. Everything on your screen becomes dramatically less appealing— and sometimes even impractical.

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Jamie April 25, 2025 at 9:06 am

Also my apologies that the formatting got wonky on my comment – doing this from my phone. The “I think you would really enjoy it” line was supposed to go after the first book recommendation.

Anyway, speaking of squeezing lemons – onward to work.

Thank you

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Melissa McWhinney April 25, 2025 at 9:13 am

HUH! This makes sense to me, as an ADHD doomscroller first thing in the morning. I have had some recent success modifying some habits so they work better for me, and I will try to shift this one as well. In fact, my body would also be glad if I didn’t get back into bed with my morning tea and remain there for two hours on the internet. As always, I appreciate your thinking and writing very much, and hope you remain well.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:43 am

It is so easy to do. I’ve cycled through various morning habits, and sometimes been caught up for *long* periods of time on my phone. I’m only on Day 2 of not unlocking it when I wake up, but so far so good. The day seems longer and fuller because I’m getting right to other stuff.

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Victoria April 25, 2025 at 9:19 am

Hey I loved this post!
I am definitely going to try ignoring my phone for at least the first hour of the day, probably buy an old school alarm clock.
My partner started finishing his showers with cold water and he told me a trick: try to make tiny loops under the cold shower. The first 5 times you might not finish a whole loop and turn only 180 degrees. Now he does mandatorily 3 loops, extra loops if there’s motivation. Now he can swim in VERY cold water in rivers, lakes… which I envy so much!!

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:45 am

I am about to take my first cold shower. I’m going to start with an easy warm/cold/warm version, but work up to finishing with cold. I will try the “loops.” I like the idea of becoming more resilient to cold in a lasting way. So many cold lakes where I live.

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Vicki April 25, 2025 at 9:24 am

Hello David,
Thank you for introducing me to the word chain-snacking. It struck a chord with me.
As always your words ring true all over, I am absolutely reading this with my morning coffee, on my phone.. I am going to pat myself on the back though. I had a glass of water first, and I am outside getting some sun, so if I just finish this comment and put the phone down I can probably still make it a win overall.
Thanks once again for your good work.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:47 am

Early sun is apparently also very good for you! It’s so gorgeous today, I’m going to step out on the porch before my cold shower. Maybe after too :)

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Sharon April 25, 2025 at 9:38 am

Wow. So great. As a self diagnosed ADHD person…..well I immediately went outside and transplanted some veggies and filled the bird bath etc. rather than looking at Instagram. Thanks David. Will spend a few more seconds in cold water shower too.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:49 am

All right! I’m on day 2 and so far I like getting right down to business. There’s a certain background bad feeling (guilt? disappointment?) that’s not there when I get right to doing something effortful.

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Tara April 25, 2025 at 9:41 am

My Buddhist teacher recommends we do a formal sitting meditation every morning before speaking to anyone or using our devices, which I’ve been doing for months now and am finding it helpful. I also removed FB from all my devices about a month ago with good results. I have started reading books again, yay! I think that as an introvert, certain things drain my energy and motivation: zoom meetings and phone calls in particular. So I am trying to avoid those before noon, although it is not always possible. My current dopamine treat is watching dharma talks on youtube, so I use those as a reward after I get the hard stuff done.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 9:50 am

That’s a great idea and I used to do something like that. I’ve had such trouble with sitting in the morning the last few years, and I suspect it’s related to this dopamine equation somehow. There’s just no interest, no inquisitiveness with respect to direct experience.

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Tara April 25, 2025 at 12:43 pm

I treat it as a non-negotiable habit, like brushing my teeth. I don’t think about whether I’m going to do it or not, so no decision energy is involved. But certainly there is effort required to get to that point. I think the fact that I have no expectations about what will happen during my morning practice helps. Often when I least feel like doing it is when I end up having a good session, so that possibility helps to encourage me to just do it.

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David Cain April 25, 2025 at 2:10 pm

It used to be like that for me, but I went many months without connecting to the practice at all, which is extremely discouraging. Something is missing, and I’ve been unable to communicate it to my teachers. I’m not sure if it’s something cognitive, or something else, but I just became unwilling to subject myself to it. I’m still finding my way back to it.

Lynne April 25, 2025 at 9:56 am

Read The Chaos Machine by Max Fisher! It will help you stay off social media for sure.

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Anna April 26, 2025 at 12:34 am

I have a rule: no phone in the bedroom. I read a lot of inspiring books thanks to it as I read before bedtime. :)

I noticed that if I don’t check the phone in the morning for at least an hour, it has an incredibly positive impact on me and my day. It’s crazy, sad, and scary to think how technology destroys our brains… and as if… controls them.

I don’t watch any news. If there’s something important happening, for sure someone will tell me about it or I’ll bump into the “crucial” info at some point somewhere. And I don’t care that I’m “not informed” or “up to date”. My own sanity and well-being is way more precious than to seem “informed” to other people.

I’ll be checking out the experiment log for sure! I wonder if it wouldn’t be a better idea to separate the two experiments (the no phone use in the morning and the cold showers) so that you know which one is doing its magic?

Cold showers indeed tend to work great for overall energy levels and dopamine but I’ve read it’s not for everyone (if you check out the traditional Chinese medicine approach for example, they usually not recommend cold exposure). But it’s just as everything: not everything is for everyone. It’s important to see what works for you as an individual and the best way is to test it. Good luck! :)

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Mel April 26, 2025 at 3:01 am

This comment could have been from me. ❤️
No phone in the bedroom and no news has done so much for my mental sanity.
Some days I might even forget to check my phone until late in the morning because I am so concentrated on work or doing household chores.
And most importantly, since I am also ADHD, it’s a habit that sticks with me since two years now – unlike other good habits that usually come and go.

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David Cain April 26, 2025 at 8:40 am

I thought about separating the variables, but I think by the end of it it will be pretty clear what’s effective and what’s not. I only do the cold showers some days so I think I should be able to tease out the difference on different days.

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yorch April 26, 2025 at 3:47 am

I went cold turkey and ditched the smartphone after many attempts at regulating its use. I do think that the smartphone tickles something animal inside my brain and that “conscious use of smartphone” is a bit of a chimera, at least for yours truly.

All the best with your experiment, David, I’m pretty sure that you will reap huge rewards.

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David Cain April 26, 2025 at 8:41 am

I am hoping it doesn’t come to that for me, as it is a massively useful device in many ways. Yesterday I installed an app called Minimalist Phone, which eliminates all the app icons and replaces them with a text list on a black screen. So far so good.

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Raisinmountaineer April 27, 2025 at 8:21 pm

Oh this is timely. I was literally searching around for things to look at on my phone while thinking “this is a waste of my time”— I’m going to black and white my phone (which does help- a lot) and will try for the early morning no-phone thing.

I notice that when I look at my phone first thing in the morning I (1) get sucked in for the day and (2) my literal vision is much poorer than when I don’t. One would think I would get a clue.

So my experiment will be to leave my phone alone, and try to get outside first thing and use my long distance vision in the sunlight. I have read this is useful for energy and eye health.

I’m so glad you introduced us to the idea of experiments. I’m joining in on this one.

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Bryce April 26, 2025 at 12:40 pm

re: Me, looking up something important on Reddit

I created a Ulysses Pact that solved (most of) my Reddit distraction problem using the LeechBlock plugin:

Useful content: No restrictions for specific threads from Google searches and /r/ level helpful subreddits
Grey list subreddits: 30-second delay for the /r/ level subreddit AND its individual threads
Black list: 60-second delay for Reddit’s main page

The delays reset if I click away, letting me access valuable information while creating friction against mindless scrolling.

This doesn’t prevent me from convincing myself something is “important” to look up, but it adds positive friction to resist bad habits.

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David Cain April 27, 2025 at 9:39 am

Apps that create delays are quite effective. So often having that little barrier is enough to make it not worthwhile, which speaks to how little value so many of my phone habits are actually giving me.

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Mary April 26, 2025 at 6:21 pm

Back in the days before smartphones took over, I read about a similar work hack: try to delay turning on your computer as long as possible. This was back when there were still work tasks that didn’t involve a computer. The idea was that once your turned on your computer, your productivity would take a nosedive, and it was spot on.

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David Cain April 27, 2025 at 9:44 am

Delay really seems to work, because you have to stop the reflexive pattern and decide what else to do. So it kind of forces you to carve at least one additional path from that moment where you would normally jump online. It forces you to develop another way to respond in that moment.

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McKinley April 30, 2025 at 11:55 am

I’ve found that whatever I do first thing in the morning is essentially a freebie habit (not quite, but it’s reliably consistent).
I have at various times been successful with getting a chunk of work done first thing, yoga, meditation, etc etc. But I’ve never made habit-stacking work.

obviously doing any of those things is better for wellbeing than checking my phone, but it hasn’t had flow-on benefits to the rest of the day, the way the lemon squeeze model predicts

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David Cain April 30, 2025 at 2:37 pm

I think this is true for me too, but mostly I’ve had a long and indulgent morning routine instead of getting to something productive. Right now I’m working four two hours before even checking my phone. It’s quite easy and feels good and makes the whole day seem more spacious.

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Daniela May 5, 2025 at 6:21 am

hey David, wishing you all the best for your experiment!!!
a big problem is that our phones ARE useful for so many things. so it’s always low-key stressful that temptation is just a tiny click away from meaningful content..i think my scrolling time also reflects if I have things I care about at the moment. like I wouldn’t scroll first thing if I had a trip/date/amazing book before me. so I try to find exciting things and the temptation fades.
even just doing the nyt crossword is so much more fun than scrolling (but maybe others would classify that as an addiction:) )

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David May 5, 2025 at 7:54 am

Thanks Daniela. They are undeniably useful, and that’s the reason I haven’t tossed the thing in the river yet. The key is to separate the usefulness from the counterproductive stuff, but the phone’s different functions bleed so easily into each other it can be hard. I’m doing a pretty good job so far of renouncing all distracting/non-utilitarian stuff from the first hours of the day, and that helps so much because the work part of my brain gains momentum a lot faster and earlier than the play part.

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