This post is intended for a certain segment of the population, and after a few paragraphs you’ll know if it’s you (or someone you know).
Historically, I’ve had spectacular trouble getting normal, everyday things done: homework, chores, work projects, household maintenance, assigned reading, paperwork, personal goals, and setting the clocks back after a time change.
Nobody finds all of this stuff easy or matter-of-course. Life demands more than any of us can give. We each have to find a kind of equilibrium where we can tolerate ourselves, let some things drop, and get most of the important stuff done.
It’s been clear to me since childhood, though, that when it comes to the ability to meet those demands, the population exists on a bell curve, and I am on the left tail of it. I always marveled at how much normal, well-adjusted people get done. How quickly they dispatch an actionable thing – a form to fill out, an item to return — and how uncomplicated the question of doing it seems.
I don’t know how doing things feels to them, but to me it feels like I’m standing on a wobbly funhouse floor, with weights velcroed to my limbs and six different radio stations playing my in my brain.
This is not a complaint, only an observation. Only my own choices can contend with this problem. It’s a confluence of random and self-induced conditions: temperament, natural and learned work ethic, emergent chains of habits and coping mechanisms, neurosis, and repeated failures of will and courage.
This is all very human stuff that nobody escapes entirely. But as I said, there’s a bell curve for every set of talents and aptitudes, and you can’t live for more than a few decades without discovering where you sit on the most relevant ones.
Some percentage of you are my neighbors on this plane. There are items on your to-do list that have been there for years. You periodically send large batches of emails prefixed with, “Sorry for the slow response.” You take three weeks to do a thing some people do in a weekend.
You know the pain and humiliation of disappointing yourself and others again and again and again. You live with a sense that you haven’t quite begun your life, at least the life you should be living. And you’re always getting older.
The Good News
You might have discovered, as I eventually did, that your productivity challenges don’t mean you can’t get things done. They do mean you’re starting in a different place than will be assumed by schools, employers, and peers. You have to pick your battles more carefully, and employ unconventional tactics that most people don’t need.
The great upside to having serious productivity challenges is that most of your potential is untapped. If you do find approaches that can circumvent your worst sticking points, you have room for a kind of drastic and rapid improvement that most people don’t.
It’s hard to measure “productivity” precisely, but the degree of improvement I’m talking about isn’t in the range 30% or 50%, but more like 3x. I’ll explain why below, but I do believe that’s a reasonable target for a productivity-challenged person shoot for, and hit, in the short term.
A 3x improvement might sound crazy, especially to the middle-of-the-curve (i.e. normal) person who is using their time relatively efficiently and feels maxed out. But for the type of person I’m talking about – a catastrophically unproductive person who may currently only get ninety minutes of actual, intentional work done per day — a full tripling of personal productivity, even much more, is certainly feasible. There’s at least that much space, that much air in the cake.
Such a leap still might not make you a superstar — if the average capable normie generates 10 units of productivity in a day, an initial tripling might take you from a 2.5 to a 7.5 – but that’s still life-changing, and opens doors for steady, long-term improvement.
I should note here that some people’s productivity challenges are not a matter of inefficiency, temperament, or mismatched tactics, but rather injuries, degenerative conditions, and other hard constraints. I’m not talking about this group. I’m talking about the tens of millions of us that have made it deep into adulthood by white-knuckling it the whole way, knowing that we’re capable of much more, but have been unable to reproduce the standards and methods practiced by those around us.
Why some of us fall behind
If that sounds like you, a relatively quick, 3x leap is probably doable. I believe the problem for most of us is that nobody explicitly teaches us productivity as we’re developing. We’re expected to figure it out solely by emulating people around us.
This does work for most people — for the fat middle of the bell curve. But if emulating standard approaches doesn’t happen to work for you, due to eccentricities of temperament, cognition, or some other factor, well guess what – ordinary life is going to be extremely, stupidly hard until you find approaches that do.
For that reason, nobody without your same problems will be able to understand or explain why you struggle. The normal process of osmosis-learning worked well enough for them. They don’t see the water they swim in.
This is why seeking conventional productivity advice, which you’ve certainly done, is unlikely to fill the void. Popular productivity material overwhelmingly targets the middle of the curve, and it’s written either by high-achieving hustle-dudes pushing the human maximum, or high-achieving clinicians who understand productivity-challenge only as a second-person, theoretical matter. Both forms of advice are complex and long-winded, and require a significant capacity for consistent doing – precisely what you don’t have — in order to implement them. They don’t get it.
Getting out of the pit
An alternative to this high-investment, normie-catered approach is to try a variety of simple, unconventional tactics, most of which can be learned in 15 or 20 minutes and applied immediately. If one doesn’t meet you where you are, you can put it down and try another, having lost nothing. When one of them does click, things can change fast.
I’ve written about some of these moves here on Raptitude — the right now list, the block method, atomic accountability, cracking the egg, the velvet rope, and the cloud and the brick, to name a few.
The beauty of this approach is that it actually works for outliers and eccentrics. Some of the tactics will slot perfectly into a gap in your unique and eccentric brain, and make an immediate and lasting difference, sometimes a dramatic one.
If you find that the Right Now List, for example – learnable in 10 minutes — is a reliable way to begin half the tasks you’d normally put off, your productivity aperture widens right there and then, for good. You’ll get a few more things done that day, and every day after.
That one new move might allow another hour or two of real, intentional doing per day, which could already be close to a 2x productivity change for a struggling person.
A Place for Misfits
Earlier this year I put together a new website to promote this approach, which I named after my ebook How to Do Things. My goal is to find and gather these scattered, neglected eccentrics, and get as many of them as possible to 3x their productivity this year.
On the new site there’s a free resource available to anyone who subscribes to the email list, called 3 Secret Weapons for the Productivity-Challenged. It will teach you three of the best tactics I’ve got: the Right Now List, the Red Carpet, and the Block Timer, in about a half hour.
This blog post from How to Do Things is another example of the kind of simple, self-contained tactic I’m talking about.
I hope you enjoy the new site. Even you non-eccentrics would probably get something out of it. If you know one of the people I’m writing it for, please send them there.
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Desert photo from Zouhair Mazjoub. Egg chair, smartphone, and Christmas light photos from Freepik. Drawings by David Cain.









I'm David, and Raptitude is a blog about getting better at being human -- things we can do to improve our lives today.
Long time reader here, but I rarely comment. I like your funhouse comparison, so I thought I’d share my own:
I feel like I am a multimillionaire. But I have to pay for everything in cash. And the only cash I’m allowed to have is nickels. And the nickels aren’t always the same currency. Sometimes US, sometimes Canadian, sometimes a Euro five cent coin, sometimes a wooden nickel from a county fair amusement park. And I’m not allowed anything sensible to carry the nickels like a piggy bank or a truck or a wheelbarrow, I have to carry the nickels using old socks. Some are sturdy, some are holey. And I don’t know if the socks are sturdy or holey until I’m halfway to my destination, maybe that journey felt easy because I was dropping half my nickels along the way.
Everyone around me is using normal methods. Cash, but in sensible denominations. A debit card linked to their checking. Credit cards that give points for travel. A sensible low interest loan they pay down regularly.
I was diagnosed with ADHD several years ago. At first, it was a relief just to have an explanation. The diagnostic testing also showed that I have a highish IQ, but low processing speed and low working memory. I’m always exhausted. I recently realized that it is because I have to actively think about everything I do. I sort of route daily things through my intelligence that should really be a matter of habit. Like, putting laundry away requires the same mental energy as, say, reading a Shakespeare sonnet.
I am also a runner. That gives me a different way to think about it. A few years ago, when I restarted running in middle age, I started getting pain in my achilles, I eventually went to see a physical therapist and found out that my running form (short strides, sort of bouncy on my forefoot) was making most of my propulsion come from my calves and putting most of the strain on my achilles tendon. I was hardly using my glutes, which are the largest muscle in the body. My short strides meant I wasn’t using the simple factor of momentum by swinging 20% of my body weight forward with each stride. I changed my stride. I did some of the recommended exercises. I’m not any faster than I was, but I don’t get that achilles pain to that level anymore.
I need to look at the strategies you are putting out (and others too) as physical therapy for my habits.
Wow… both of these analogies resonate with me. The “paying in nickels” image is perfect. I know exactly what you mean: I do have it in me, I am good for it — it just takes so much processing to pay the cost.
The running analogy also touches on another aspect of it: additional problems caused by compensatory behaviors. The processing issue is one thing, but an even bigger hindrance has been the social anxiety created by knowing I can’t find the right words in time, the sense of being incapable of fulfiling adult responsibilities, all that.
Thanks for this comment Tim. I think there are a lot of people like us out there. This particular struggle is hard to talk about and describe, and in my case (sounds like yours too) took a long time to even begin to understand.
The strategies I’m referring to in this site are small — as close to nickel-sized as possible — so that you can comprehend them as a whole piece, and try them out without imposing some large structure on your life.
On the running analogy: definitely yes on the additional problems caused by compensatory behaviors. Also, weakness in one area (hip flexors, processing speed) can cause problems in an entirely different area (achilles, social awareness).
But I was also trying to switch to an analogy that allows for the possibility of change and improvement.
There is nothing you can do if you are on a wobbly funhouse floor with weights strapped to your limbs and 6 radio stations playing at once. You are a character in a Vonnegut story, the best you can hope for is that the teenagers reading it in 10th grade English get the point. Same for me with the nickels in the socks. At best, I’m a poor soul being bypassed in a Black Mirror episode, maybe I can sell naming rights to my children for access to normal currency or some other bizzare thing.
The running analogy allows for real meaningful change. The change doesn’t need to be huge (letting my heel hit the ground now engages my glutes), but the effect is big. Again, I’m no faster, but that small change might allow me to remain a runner for decades more. If I were no more productive than I am now, but that productivity took half as much time and was no longer full of anxiety and self-doubt and shame. That alone would be huge.
The stories we tell ourselves matter too. One story might be great for helping others understand our struggle (funhouse mirror/nickels). Those same stories can hold us in place, but a shift in the story can open up a crack of the possible.
Good point, and I agree. Changing how you do things can make a big and immediate difference, but it involves deviating from the default/intuitive way, which can be hard to let go of. It probably won’t result in becoming a superstar, but the relative difference can be immense.
Agreed on stories as well. They work like magic spells. I have different stories circulating in my mind. At least one of them is that I have always been doomed. Another is that these challenges have given me access to a life I would not have had otherwise. And many more.
Re: Cal Newport. Many know Cal as just a productivity influencer. But he really knows his stuff. I reciommend his write up (from 8 years ago) about how he got tenured status at a university in a super short period of time.
Oh I have huge respect for Cal Newport. I’ve read several of his books and they are good. But they do assume you can do what you intend as long as you can organize your time better. They don’t address the more severe and fundamental productivity problems like I’m referring to.
Hi David,
Long time reader and fan here too.
I’ve just got your ebook and a few weeks ago and already love stacking post it notes with good blocks done.
Thanks for your amazing blog. I’ll be checking the new website.
Excellent. I’m glad it’s working for you. If you check out the new site a I’d love to hear which techniques you find useful.
Thank you. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD last year. I started suspecting I had it back in 2020, after you shared your personal story. At the time, my then doctor dismissed me, and people in my life didn’t believe I could have it, so I just gave up on ever figuring out what my struggles were. Last year, I had basically the worst crisis of inexplicable task paralysis and overwhelm that I had ever experienced in my life, and went to my current doctor just desperate for therapy or ANY kind of help. And finally! Somebody recognized my struggles for what they really are and got me the help I actually needed.
I am treated now, and I have finally been able to stop the lifelong struggle of trying to function like everyone around me (i.e. like a neurotypical!), and I have been able to fully accept and embrace that I need and thrive with entirely different and often unconventional approaches and techniques that others don’t need – and often just don’t understand. And that’s okay!
I am SO excited to visit your new site. I can’t say thank you enough, man, THANK YOU!!!
Oh I’m so glad to hear you’ve started to find ways that work.
I suppose part of the problem is that these sorts of struggles are internal and most people have no reference for it — doing is just doing. So we feel tremendously ashamed and unable to explain (even to ourselves) that something is actually very wrong.
I hope you enjoy the new site. The newsletter will give you some more tools that might help.
Not sure Ive ever felt more seen or understood in my freakin life!! Im gonna look forward to exploring the new site and reading about the different tools that could be helpful with productivity. Loved the photo of pushing the boulder up the mountain. I use that greek myth to describe my life all the time! Hahaha!!
Right on! I swear there are millions of us. I’m going to gather our kind and build a mecca.
The image of Sisyphus and its impossible proportions has always given me comfort.
I feel like I am in this weird place in which I am highly productive for my deadline driven work, but then I have a suitcase and clothes on my table that I haven’t touched since vacation in July and you can’t even see a large section of my bedroom floor because it is covered in items that have been piled there for YEARS. In fact, cleaning that section of floor was my one goal for today — but instead, here I am reading online. Ugh.
This is really common. Deadlines motivate, and as soon as there isn’t one, nothing happens. There are ways to leverage that, by creating a hard deadline with consequences, using a friend’s help: https://www.raptitude.com/2023/08/atomic-accountability/
Go clean your room Mary! :)
For the past five years I’ve had a roommate who struggles with ADHD. One thing I’ve observed, from living with him, is that certain “cues” I take for granted don’t seem to work on him.
For me, a depleting resource is a strong, automatic cue. Seeing the number of toilet paper rolls or the amount of soap in a dispenser going down over time gradually increases my desire to go out and buy more of that thing, before we run out. I don’t have to think about it at all – it’s a survival instinct, I guess.
My roommate, though? I’ve looooong given up hope of him developing this “ability”. He has never bought shared commodities without being explicitly prodded. (When prodded, he usually does it right away without complaint, so I don’t think he’s just being cheap.) If I wasn’t there, presumably he’d constantly be “suddenly” running out of TP, much like how he regularly “suddenly” has no clean clothes, leading to him trying to cram three loads’ worth of laundry into the machine at once because he has to work in two hours.
I judge him for this, because I just don’t get how someone could be that oblivious to cues, that immune to their “natural” calls to action. It is utterly baffling to me.
But. Here’s the thing. When it comes to my white-collar office job, I have to admit that I’m… exactly like my roommate.
Things that should be “cues” to me – that seemingly ARE cues to other people – simply aren’t. All those important projects, all those not-done tasks, all those emails I need to respond to. They don’t stir me to act. I look at them and go, “That sure is a task. Look at it, all tasky. I wonder if someone will do it at some point.” Like my roommate, I feel zero impulse to do the work until it’s “suddenly” the last minute. And not everything worth doing HAS an objective “last minute”, so a lot of stuff just… never happens. (My superiors are, unfortunately, very lenient with me.)
I keep trying to make my tasks seem more appealing, mostly through the use of checklists. I’ve had very limited success with this. So I’m excited to check out your site. I’m sure a lot of strategies will be familiar to me, as a long-time reader of Raptitude, but maybe the change of packaging will give them a dopamine-friendly freshness.
I definitely think you’re right: we, the productivity-challenged, need our own resources, crafted by people who know what it’s like from the inside. Thanks for all of your work in this area!
I have always been interested in these sorts of differences, because I’ve noticed how different I am with some people. I think everybody has their own set of cues that become salient for them, for whatever reason. I never run out of toilet paper either, but I’ll live with broken/dysfunctional things that other people can’t stand.
Interestingly, it goes both ways. I am always amazed at how clumsy some people are, bumping into things and knocking things over, and I think it’s because I’ve always been extremely vigilant about where my body is in space because I sense how unaware I would be without constant vigilance. Same with being late, which is a common ADHD trait — I am almost never late and get extremely anxious when it’s even POSSIBLE that I’ll be late, probably because I know I could easily lose track of time without that hypervigilance.
This piece of your writing seems like you are looking in to my soul and writing it to me. I am a long time reader but hardly comments. From the last few years especially since COVID-19, I had noticed that I often feel overwhelmed with the new situations and put the work associated on the back burner and thus lacking in productivity to a great degree. I and working on managing my anxiety levels and it is still not where I want them to be. It is “decision paralysis: for me killing my productivity.
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