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How to Avoid Getting Lost in Thought

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Say you’re walking through Death Valley, trying to find your way back to the highway. Luckily you’ve got a good paper map.

As you walk, you scan the territory around you for landmarks. You see some large-scale details: hills, rock formations, and gullies. Also some minute ones: pebbles, gangly plants, trails through the dust where snakes have been.

These smaller details would never appear on a map, because they’re not conducive to navigation, yet they are certainly part of the territory, as are lizards, birds, forgotten stone arrowheads, the bleached bones of cattle, and the fossils of Mesozoic squid.

At least right now, you too are a part of the territory, along with your clothing and boots, canteen, Tilley hat, and California highways department map of Death Valley.

When you look at a map, it appears at a glance that the territory is inside the map. This map contains the whole of Death Valley National Park — every stretch of its highways, every point of interest, both gas stations, and a handful of residential hamlets. You hold the whole expanse in your hands. You’re in there somewhere, presumably south of the line that says Highway 190.  

But you’re not in there. You’re out here. Lift your head up: you’re in the territory, in the baking sun, a speck between horizons – and so is your map. There’s never been anything but territory, in fact, and any maps present are just another part of said territory.

You are not here

Humans love maps so much that we often get this relationship backwards. We spend most of our lives poring over maps of various kinds, situating ourselves and other objects on them. A business’s ledger, as one example, is a kind of map – numbers in spreadsheet cells represent in-person transactions, crates of product, brick-and-mortar realities of all kinds. This sort of mapping is very powerful. A ledger can allow you to see at a glance a business’s total financial position; it would be physically impossible to see at once all of the warehouses, stock, employees, and purchases represented in that ledger’s figures.

Even a movie is a map. We’re watching symbols that represent some hypothetical territory. Actors, pretending to be other people, are filmed doing things that aren’t actually happening. When we watch the footage of this pretending, ideally we believe momentarily that it’s not pretending. We see Harrison Ford as Indiana Jones. We feel like he’s actually being mind-controlled by Thuggee cultists, and perhaps if Short Round pleads to him adorably enough he’ll become himself again.

When my cat watches Platoon with me, she’s seeing figures that perhaps resemble mice or dogs to her, and sometimes she is fooled by that and hops up in front of the screen. But she’s missing the whole point of the movie – she’s not seeing the United States locked in a tragic conflict that will end with a famous helicopter evacuation of the Saigon embassy, of which countless documentaries will be made, replaying images tourists will recall with genuine grief when they visit the Veterans Memorial in Washington. Zoey the cat just has no idea what I’m seeing here. She has no idea what’s going on in the world at all!

Has no clue

But I’ve got it backwards. My cat is much more firmly attuned to the territory than I am. As a human, I get lost in maps for fun and by accident, pretending I’m a cowboy or a Victorian courtier, or assembling a view of the whole world from Substacks and news products. The cat is always sniffing the territory, studying it, rubbing her face on it.

Humans can only do all this mapping and symbol-mongering because we evolved the ability to hallucinate stuff we’re not presently sensing. We can summon to mind images of territories that exist elsewhere or even nowhere. Money we haven’t earned yet. Predators we’ve never encountered. Disappointments we haven’t suffered yet. Futures that are possible, or even impossible.

This ability has allowed us to build cities, establish moral codes, and go to the moon, but it also presents a huge liability: confusion about what’s there and what’s merely being thought about.

One problem with living from maps upon maps upon maps is that eventually we don’t know what the hell is going on. Life is filled maddening contradictions – one map says a thing is true, another says it’s not – and trying to live in the impossible world you believe is somehow depicted in those maps can be hell.

The truth must be around here somewhere

You can easily have the thought, for example, that you simply can’t get sick right now. You have too much to do and too many people depend on you. I can’t get sick! This thought seems absolutely true.

Then you have another thought: I can get sick. Oh no! That’s also true! I can get sick! *And* I can’t get sick! What a horrible place to be, this land of pure contradiction, of infernal rock and hard place. A horrible territory to live in!

Of course, the contents of your thoughts are map, not territory. Territories do not contradict themselves. The actual territory is that you are sitting in a room, undergoing the mental spasms of thinking, imagining you are in this hellish territory in which things that must not be true are definitely true.

Thinking is certainly useful, but since it amounts to using hallucinations as references to live by, we inevitably confuse real for hypothetical, and life becomes a bad trip for a while.

Does not contradict itself

There’s no way to completely avoid this sort of confusion: we need to conflate map and territory, at least a bit, in order to get what the map is about. We’re able to enjoy the movie only if we believe, at least momentarily, that Indiana Jones is real. We’re able to “see” a business only if we believe that the spreadsheet numbers somehow are warehouses full of inventory.

The only defense is to practice seeing the map (thinking) as just another feature of the territory, like your highways map is a physical thing in the desert. Thoughts themselves – hallucinatory mental spasms — are real phenomena you experience, just like sounds and smells. What they depict is not being experienced. When you’re having a thought about your boss getting mad at you, you’re experiencing a thought, not your boss. You still might feel real shame and fear though.

A person can intentionally practice seeing thoughts for what they are: momentary images or words, appearing seemingly in front of or inside your head – fleeting apparitions which can trigger alarm, relief, or other emotions and bodily processes.

We’re just pixels, man! Motes of light on a screen somewhere, man!

When you can see a thought for what it is, even just occasionally, they loosen their hold on your mind, and don’t as easily drag you into stressful fake hells.

How to Become Aware of a Thought

Basically, thoughts can be categorized as either mental image or mental talk. You either “see” or “hear” something that suggests some phenomenon that isn’t actually here.

Think of Paris. Think of an apple. Think of the groove to Queen’s Another One Bites the Dust.

When you do, you’re sensing something. A real phenomenon. While some people don’t feel like they “see” mental images, or “hear” mental talk, you at least get some kind of impression of the thing, a mental whiff of Eiffel Tower or an electric bassline.

Thought is just another sense experience, and although it’s very subtle and quick, you can notice it, like you can notice a bird zip by the window.

Enjoy a whiff of searing guitar solo

Try this when you have a few minutes:

Sit with your eyes closed, and wait for the next thought. Wait for the appearance of any sight or sound in the mind – an image, a bit of a song, any appearance tugging at your attention – and just note it. If it’s visual, say the word “see” to yourself. If it’s auditory, say the word “hear” to yourself. If it’s more of a feeling, say the word “feel” to yourself. If you don’t know, just use any of these labels. Then just watch, listen, or feel the thought go.

All you’re doing is noting that a thought occurred, and you’re giving it a simple label; the label helps you stay aware as a thought, a momentary sense experience. That’s it — you’ve seen a thought for what it is, without confusing it for its subject matter. You recognized a map as a map.

Then just repeat the process. Wait for the next thought, and just note it and label it. Do all this in a relaxed, matter-of-fact way. You just want to notice the thought, as a thought, in any way at all.

A thought, seen for what it is

Most thoughts only happen for an instant, and they aren’t very vivid. It might just be a flash of an image, or an indistinct feeling of something happening elsewhere. By the time you say the label, it will probably have dissipated or turned to something else. It takes only a few seconds to note a thought like this.

If you get caught up in subject matter, or confused about what’s happening, just drop it and start again: wait for the next thought.

Doing this practice a few minutes a day might give you the sense that thought — that life, seemingly — is “loosening” a bit. Thinking may begin to feel more local, smaller, less sticky, less liable to explode into more thinking. You may begin to see a given thought as a momentary eddy, a little swirl of smoke here in the room with you, rather than a real, honking thing out there in “the world.”

It turns out thoughts themselves are very tiny, just small specks of territory, like a little paper map held in the hands, in the midst of a landscape too vast to fathom.

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J$ December 20, 2024 at 2:25 pm

okay – this was good, my friend. that map analogy was perfect!! I love that even after all these years reading your blog (over 10 now?!) i’m still SEEing life through new angles like this… and it FEELS fantastic ;)

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David Cain December 20, 2024 at 3:15 pm

Thanks J. I think about this map/territory stuff all the time

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Val B. December 20, 2024 at 3:18 pm

David, thank you for this and your other blogs. This is the best description and instruction of thinking and how to better meditate that I have EVER seen (and I first learned about meditating 60 years ago)! I find meditation to be a challenge because of ADHD but this method makes it easier to spot the thoughts, easier to see the trees that make up the forest. Thank you.

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David Cain December 20, 2024 at 4:53 pm

Meditation really opens up when you start working directly with thought. Thought is what causes the whole illusion we’re trying to wake up from. Just seeing a single thought come and go can bring on a new level of concentration.

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Krasna December 20, 2024 at 4:46 pm

BRAVO! What an essay! It sounds like a metaphor or an abstract mental exercise, and then wriggles its way inside out to metamorphose into a tool for inviting, maybe creating, more awareness. Don’t you love it when that happens? Thank you!

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David Cain December 20, 2024 at 4:54 pm

I really think the map/territory illusion is the root of almost all of our suffering. That might sound over the top but I think it’s true. Thoughts are just momentary experiences that happen in your awareness, and they depict experiences you’re not having.

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Krasna December 22, 2024 at 3:38 pm

It seems to me that thoughts, emotions, and other brain-type stuff are all of the limited human mind. Could argue about what is “real” and what is “illusion,” but why? That’s not even the point. To go beyond all those limitations means to go beyond the mind.

I think the map/territory illusion is a great tool for finding the cracks and sneaking into our — well, what do we call it? Awareness? The us beyond our minds? Words are from the not-beyond part, and wow do they like to keep things buttoned up. Tricky! (Which btw is why your way of using them is so helpful.)

The map/illusion is like a meditation, a tiny jolt of thinking/knowing, a trick of our own to put the mind itself into perspective so we can cultivate a beyond level of clarity. The mind is wonderful, but it’s a map. The territory is all of me.

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Komal December 20, 2024 at 5:54 pm

Your blog continues being a life-saver. Thank you for the glimpses of territory you’ve shown throughout the years when I’ve been lost in maps!

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Francis December 20, 2024 at 11:04 pm

You nailed it in this blog. Well done. i also have been reading for years. i seldom comment, but this post will definitely help somebody. if i get it, anyone can.

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Andy December 21, 2024 at 6:05 am

The BA in human geography I did finally has a real-life use: I get to comment on the fact that maps also present different versions of the world, which shape our thoughts. For instance, most of us are so used to Mercator projections of the world that we don’t even think that there might be other ways to see the world that avoid the distortions of the Mercator map (but will obviously introduce their own distortions). And so we interpret the world based on a not-true-to-life presentation, which sends us on mental and sociocultural trajectories that shape in fact how we think and experience the world.

Much like the exercise of labeling thoughts, sounds, or feelings as such to change one’s perceptions of phenomena, we can also use different types of maps to experience the world in different ways. For example, seeing a map that shows, say, the continent of Africa as a predominant feature of the planet and minimizing North America is a way to label our understanding of the world as interpretive as opposed to simply factual.

David: Enjoy your meditation retreat!

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David Cain December 21, 2024 at 3:50 pm

Thanks!

Even just the view of the world as a globe or a projection is utterly divorced from any “territory” view of the world, which is almost always from the surface, looking out at a very limited part of it. Vanishingly few humans have ever seen the “great blue marble” itself. Whenever people talk about what’s “going on in the world” I bristle, because there’s no such thing as knowing what’s going on in the world. It’s too big, too complex to even begin to comprehend, by many orders of magnitude.

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Chris Benson December 21, 2024 at 1:35 pm

“Territories do not contradict themselves.”

I read this line in context, and in that moment I achieved satori. Seriously.

And then it left.

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David Cain December 21, 2024 at 3:46 pm

“Inevitably the self disappears, inevitably the self reappears.”
-Shinzen Young

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Dennis December 22, 2024 at 1:04 pm

Thanks, David. This works so much better than trying to shut up your mind. Been there, haven’t been able to do that.

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David Cain December 22, 2024 at 6:15 pm

Same. It just generates thoughts on its own. There’s no shutting it up. But you can learn to be aware of them rather than respond to them with more thinking.

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Lauritz December 27, 2024 at 3:41 am

This meditation technique works well. Did you adopt this from Shinzen Young? I have to say, I prefer this practice only at the beginning of a session or for shorter sessions though. After a while, the labels are too much of an interference to let the mind get calm and relax. It keeps the thoughts coming.
You could look into Tranquil Wisdom Insight Meditation (TWIM) for an alternative, that lets go of thinking completely. It worked well for me.

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David December 28, 2024 at 11:24 am

Yes, this is a very brief description of of Shinzen’s noting practice. I’m the same — I use it at the beginning of a session, after that I drop the labels and sometimes the noting technique altogether. It is really great for jumping into practice in a matter of seconds though.

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Pedro December 29, 2024 at 1:52 pm

Indeed! It is just like confusing the finger pointing at the moon with the actual moon! :) I also like the analogy I heard once from Alan Watts, that says something like “Eating the menu instead of the meal”.

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Charly January 3, 2025 at 1:29 pm

Such a great read! I love the idea of treating your thoughts like a movie—just observing them instead of getting sucked in. I definitely catch myself lost in my head all the time, so I’m going to try labeling my thoughts next time. Thanks for the reminder to stay in the present!

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